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Very easy to read and understand, very helpfulReview Date: 2008-06-29
very helpful bookReview Date: 2005-10-05
Still letting everything sink inReview Date: 2005-11-19
My therapist recommended this book, telling me that this book is really good at explaining neglect (emotional) and its affects. For me its done what 4 years of therapy could not do and that is really make me face and realize why I am the way I am. Its because of therapy that I can read this book and understand, but this book is kind of like the icing on the cake, just pulling everything together and making it very clear.
I think I'm still trying to understand the part in the book the previous reviewer was talking about which is the hopeful self and the wounded self, the hopeful self which needs to give up trying to get love from a parent that never was able to give love to you your whole life.
One thing I have to say is that although he does acknowledge that this book is not just about people physically living at home, but also using at a metaphor for people who are still emotionally tied or poeple who maybe have no contact w/ family but recreate this family w/ new relationships. I'm in the last category having felt that I had limited my relationship w/ my parent as much as possible and I don't harbor too much hope for love from her, but I feel as if I have recreated that relationship w/ other people. I wish he had talked more about this and not so much about people who are are tied to the home in more blatant, obvious ways such as living there or calling home everyday.
All I can say is that I read this book within one day. I've reread it twice. Its one of those books that you just need. Its clear and to the point. He doesn't make anything pretty for you and tells everything to you in a way that is like you are your own therapist and doctor.
Its a book that you will probably have the rest of your life.
I love how the previous reviewer said Just Get The Book.
I back her up 100 percent. Get it. It's like I can't even explain it, you just have to get the book and see for yourself and then you'll understand.
review of Leaving HomeReview Date: 2006-03-15
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An excellent treatment of the subjectReview Date: 1999-12-21
A great historical accountReview Date: 2000-07-06
A sad, necessary history for all AmericansReview Date: 2005-03-24
The fact is that the case of Leo Frank acted as a steam valve, in many respects, to the buildup of Southern frustration and anger that had grown since the Civil War, then through Reconstruction and its aftermath. Southern Pride took a near-mortal blow when Lee surrendered to Sherman at Appomattox, humiliating the survivors of hundreds of thousands of dead. Reconstruction brought in Northern carpetbaggers who participated in the governments of the states that they had just defeated. Southern anger accumulated, especially as attempts to overturn it were thwarted until the contested election of 1876, in which Rutherford B. Hayes won on the condition of agreeing to end Reconstruction.
Reconstruction allowed Southern states to exact a measure of revenge on black populations, although resentment toward the North remained unavenged. In an honor-bound society such as the South, it is very difficult to imagine that wrong to one's family would go without settling the score. Such is the larger metaphor of the South as a whole to the North. Southern society and culture prided itself on being a distinct and cultured entity from the slavish industrialists of the North.
Thus, when a stereotypical Northern carpetbagger, a Jew no less, found himself in connection with the violent death of a Southern belle, vengeance became a powerful a prevailing force. Upon Leo Frank was heaped all of the indignation from Southern loss to the North - the industrialization, forcing young girls to work in factories; the ownership of capital; the imposition of Reconstruction; Lincoln marching into Richmond - all Southern rage at the North was embodied in the trial of Leo Frank. (Ironically, a Northern newspaper magnate, William Randolph Hearst, fed the flames through his acquisition of the Atlanta Georgian, which led the pack in sensationalizing the trial.)
All of this is to say that the forces which demanded that Leo Frank be the sacrificial lamb for the North's crimes against the South were too powerful for rational legal procedures. If the governor had reversed the conviction or the commuted the sentence, he would have been denying the mob the satisfaction of revenge. The lynching of Frank did give rise to the Klu Klux Klan, however the immediate reaction of Georgia (and the South) was a demand for justice, even though it was at the end of a rope.
It is telling that Frank did not receive a pardon of his conviction until 1986, and even that was amid controversy in the South. Those eighty years had to pass before rational analysis of a crime could be carried out and a form of justice could be executed, which lends perspective to the heft of the event in the history of the South. Tom Watson's remark was an astute reflection of the prevailing sentiment of the day and offers a glimpse into larger, unresolved tensions of the day.
Well written, impartial treatment of the Frank CaseReview Date: 1999-07-17
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an historical gem that passed unnoticedReview Date: 2005-09-02
The original was translated by Colleen Taylor and edited by David Joravsky of Northwestern University. Medvedev couldn't get published in the USSR, and this work thus first appeared in the West. It was written primarily during the transition from Khrushev's anti-Stalinist reforms to Brezhnev's immanent social-imperialism.
August 1968 is also the month of the Soviet invasion of Czechoslavakia and the defeat of Dubcek's "socialism with a human face." This is also the period of Mao's Great Proletarian Cultural Revolution.
Stalin was as evil as Hitler, yet he rose to power in the first Socialist state. The Second World War played itself out as one totalitarian dictatorship in a death struggle with another, yet Stalin ended up through the course of events as an ally of the democratic and capitalist Anglo-American West in its life-or-death struggle against fascism.
Totalitarianism turns out to have been the big infatuation of the twentieth century intelligentsia. Medvedev represents Russia's awakening from this plague. He is wrong about so much, yet for his age he was so far ahead of his times.
This book is a classic, and I believe the original should be the preferred version. Stalin's terror is nearly beyond belief. It is tragic in a different way than Nazism; perhaps with consequences more evil.
If Leninism ever revives, this will be a classic, just as it is now in the wake of the Cold War defeat of Communism.
Comprehensive and interestingReview Date: 2000-05-23
Passion overwhelms the writingReview Date: 2000-12-24
The author was a person who was an opponent of Stalin and prior to the fall of the regime was active in its criticism. The book goes through the issues associated with Stalin such as the decision to collectivize agriculture, the forced industrialization, the terror and the handling of the war. The author forms the view that Stalin was an unmitigated disaster. That is the country would have progressed economically better without him, and his handling of the war was catastrophic.
It is a good book to read with other western accounts such as Bullocks.
As definitive as a person could possibly desire.Review Date: 2001-05-14
To find true objectivity, on the subject of Sovietology, one must reach back into the distant past, and read Roy Medvedev's incredible, 'Let History Judge'. One could refer to Medvedev's writings, as "Solzhenitsyn, without the racism and bitterness"(a spew of biographies show that Solzhenitsyn is without question anti-semitic; however, this fact doesn't mean he's no longer one of the elite writers of the twentieth century). 'Let History Judge', is not so much a history of Stalin, but a history of Russia from 1917-1953. Described, with minute detail, is Lenin's seizure of power, Lenin's benevolent feelings toward Stalin (which ended effectively after the Eleventh All-Congress of the Bolsheviks), Trotsky's role as leader of the Red Army, Trotsky's complete ineptness in regard to the left-opposition, and Stalin's remarkable, almost super-human, political abilites. In addition, one will never discover a finer description of collectivization anywhere (although I must admit Conquest's 'Harvest of Sorrow', is pretty excellent). Russia's grain production in 1930-1933, were almost certainly below pre-WWI levels, apparently, but Stalin wanted Russia to appear forceful, so he sold grain internationally, as if it were "business as usual", which resulted in the death of millions of non-guilty peasants (however, one can not deny George Carlin's classic quote, "there are no innocent people, once you're born, you're guilty as charged").The description of the horrible Gulag system is not quite as great as Solzhenitsyn's, but it's pretty darn close. Unlike Solzhenitsyn, Medvedev doesn't slander the dead, or embark on anti-semitic diatribes (thankfully, for the population at large, Medvedev critiques much of what Solzhenitsyn wrote in the 'Gulag Archipelago' with absolute clarity).
The price is pretty high, but at 800+ pages, the person isn't really buying just one book, they are buying a multitude of books, which cover a variety of subjects. In addition to, 'Let History Judge', I would also strongly recommend you read Edvard Radzinsky's 'Stalin', Volkogonov's 'Autopsy of an Empire' (being a Yeltsin staffer, Volkogonov is biased, but there is some interesting anecdotes!), and Robert Tucker's magnificent two-volume biograpy of Stalin. Unlike other works on the subject of the Russian Revolution, these works actually take a "scholarly" approach!
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Field Marshal Mannerheim's early yearsReview Date: 2008-10-31
His service included fighting in the Russo-Japanese War of 1905 and a 2 year reconnaisance expedition through the border provinces of China in 1906-8. He fought through the First World War - at the time of the Bolshevik Revolution he was a Lieutenant-General commanding a Cavalry Corps. During WW1, he was a protege of General Brusilov (the "Brusiolc Offensive - one of the more successful offensive actions in WW1 and to date one of the battles with the most casualties of any in history). He returned to Finland as a refugee but almost overnight assumed the historic role of Commander-in-Chief of the White Army which he led to victory in the Finnish Civil War of 1918. For the rest of his life, he was one of the most controversial and important political figures in Finland.
Mannerheim's opinions and policies as a Finnish soldier and statesman were deeply influenced by his experiences in Russia. By taking a fresh look at Mannerheim's early career in Russia, this book makes his later involvment in the development of independent Finland easier to understand.
Contents
I - The Formative Years
II - Early Years in Russia
III - Across Asia
IV - Last Years in Russia
V - The Years of Preparation
At only 159 Pages, this is a short book. There's 4 B&W photos, 4 Maps and an extensive bibliography. First published 1970. It's best read immediately prior to the author's subsequent book, Mannerheim - The Finnish Year (which was only published in 2000). However, it's interesting. If you're interested in Mannerheim, it's well worth the money and quite well-written.
The author, J E O Screen, was Librarian of the School of Slavonic and East European Studies at the University of London from 1972 to 1988. He's written a number of other books and articles on aspects of Finland's military history.
The successful White GeneralReview Date: 2007-04-12
Mannerheim was of the old Swedish nobility who effortless had made the transition between loyalty to the king of Sweden to loyalty to the Tsar. This group which made up about 10% of the population and made up a large segment of the elite. Being nobility, Mannerheim had few career options particularly after his father went bankrupt. After a rather disasterous tenure in Swedish military school, he managed to make his way to St Petersburg where the combination of a military career and advantageous marriage allowed him to enjoy the high life of the waning days of Tsarist Russia.
J.E.O Screen tells Mannerheim's story succinctly and well, covering Mannerheim's career in the Russo-Japanese War, his espionage trip through Central Asia, and his career in WWI where he won the Order of St George for heroism. The book concludes with Mannerheim leaving St Petersburg for Helsinki and an uncertain future. It is this later period which showed Mannerheim in all his greatness. This book showed how he was able to reach these heights of glory.
A thoughtful, well researched biographyReview Date: 2001-05-12
There are a great many details of his life which I have never before read. I highly recommend this book to those who hold the Marshal in high esteem and to any who enjoy reading about very accomplished MAN.
Mannerheim-Finland's George WashingtonReview Date: 2000-08-18

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An engaging survey for the non-specialist general reader.Review Date: 2000-03-03
Advances in mathematics since 1960Review Date: 2001-02-12
Some of the topics are those that have been resolved in this time span, such as the four-color problem, the classification of simple groups, Hilbert's Tenth Problem, and the Continuum Hypothesis. Others are some that have been created by the advent of computers, such as fractals, chaos, and the efficiency of algorithms. Finally, there are those where only significant progress has been made, such as Fermat's Last Theorem, factoring large numbers, and Knot Theory. All are dealt with in a manner that will allow the non-technical person to understand them. The writing is clear, concise, and direct.
With over half of the material dealing directly with work done on computers, it is clear that the author's use of the phrase is correct. However, this era will go down in history as the original golden age of the use of computers in mathematics and not as a new golden age of mathematics alone.
Strongly recommended as a primer on major mathematical accomplishments since 1960, this book can be enjoyed by amateurs and professionals alike.
Published in Journal of Recreational Mathematics, reprinted with permission
well-written and mind-stretchingReview Date: 2000-09-20
Great Book for Prospective MathematiciansReview Date: 2002-06-18

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I concurReview Date: 2003-09-11
Reviewing "Mobilizing Islam"Review Date: 2002-12-25
Islamism from a different perspectiveReview Date: 2004-12-16
This excellent book by Rosefsky Wickham does not provide answers to the whole notion of Islam being 'opposed' to the West, or the debate about whether Islamic countries can become democratized 'like us'.
It is more focused on the deeper, underlying social movements that propel Islamism in Egypt, the people/organization/methods through which the religious movement has gained ground. She also examines how this change takes place, via what she calls "transvaluation". It's a nice departure made from the conventional obsession with the violence and the need to 'save' the Muslims under Islamic autocrats.
The narrative she provides does not use the normal political science jargon and is an enjoyable academic read. I found it quite refreshing.
Fabulous bookReview Date: 2003-04-17
While political economy explanations can show the context that leads to the creation of a potential audience for a message of social justice and transformation of society from below, it doesn't explain why people would do so when the costs of such action in an authoritarian country are so high. Usually survival is the paramount concern of most in society outside the coopted elite, unless an opportunity for change occurs. But such was not the case in Egypt in the 1970s and 80s, not one sufficiently great in and of itself anyway, to mobilize the disaffected semi elite who did join and became the backbone of the Brotherhood. What was needed also was a message of hope, social justice, and fairness, and that message was supplied by moderate political islam. The opportunity of course was facilitated by the traditional failure not only of the state's own neopopulist economic, social, and educational policies, but also of the main other opposition socialist movements. Moderate political islam provided the answer for many.
It should be noted that this book, unlike many other studies of egyptian political islam by authors like Barry Rubin and Mary Anne Weaver, does not focus on the more violent offshoots of the Brotherhood, Egyptian Islamic Jihad, and Al Qaeda. Ergo this is not a book about terrorism. But that's kind of the point, this shows the fact the even now (at least before 9/11) mainstream political Islam in most Moslem nations in the Middle East and beyond are quite moderate and while wanting to create a Moslem state in the long run (i.e. over decades) are willing to do so from below. Wickham quotes a female activist in the book who says precisely that, i.e. that by teaching children about the religion, its values, and goals, as well as their mothers and fathers, that over time this will help build support for the movement until it grows to a large enough popular majority to overtake the state peacefully. This could be called revolutionary in the sense that the long term goal is change of the state and society, but it is neither a top down, not militant movement, but rather one that seeks to achieve its goals at the ballot box, in the mosques, schools, health care centers, sports clubs, newstands, in professional associations, and such rather than with weapons. It therefore very much is a study of a movement in a major Moslem nation that joins a growing list of outstanding works in English on the subject from other countries such as Jenny White's "Islamist Mobilization in Turkey" about Turkey's AK party, which recently came to power and Robert W. Hefner's "Civil Islam" about Indonesia's Nhladatul Ulama of former President Abdurahman Wahid.
If you want to understand what mainstream political islam stands for and is seeking to achieve, in the most important Arab nation at that, this is probably the most important book you could read.

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Excellent referenceReview Date: 2008-10-04
Because of this and the Oregon Coast version, I buy the Moon Handbooks now over the others.
Well worth the price.
Great Book About The Columbia River AreaReview Date: 2007-09-08
Wonderful Guidebook!Review Date: 2006-11-09
Like having a local with you on vacation!Review Date: 2006-07-22

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A must for anyone interested in N.Y.C. and urban history.Review Date: 1998-10-24
Exhaustive architectural history of major institutionsReview Date: 2005-01-19
One more point: The narrative seems largely absent of knee-jerk political correctness and fadish multi-culturalist rhetoric, which is refreshing. Thus, the author has stopped at nothing in order to maintain the highest academic and scholarly standards in the book. Well done, in that regard.
A HISTORICAL ODE TO A BEAUTIFUL OLD NEIGHBORHOODReview Date: 2004-10-29
Superb Valentine To A Beautiful NeighborhoodReview Date: 2000-01-30

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Shaping future debatesReview Date: 2007-09-28
A necessary step in achieving political change in AmericaReview Date: 2004-04-13
A Must Read for People Concerned About DemocracyReview Date: 2004-05-01
Absolutely Necessary ReadingReview Date: 2004-09-25
Mark my words: if this control of the debate continues than less and less voters will show up to the booths. And also, if John Kerry is stupid enough to agree to a protocol for the debate as was done in debates past, he will certainly lose the election because you have to catch George W. Bush off gaurd to see what he's really made of.

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The story of a wolf/dog hybrid & the man who befriended himReview Date: 2000-05-29
When Lawrence takes the Hybrid into his home he finds that he has true savage on his hands, and that it will take all his skills as a naturalist to tame an animal that was more wolf than it was dog. This is not a sentimental book though Lawrence and the hybrid he names Yukon do become friends, rather it is a story about two creatures getting to know one another, in an unforgiving world.
Yukon is testament to man's inability to understand the mind and soul of a wolf. Lawrence eventually realizes that Yukon will never be a "people" dog and that the remainder of his life must be spent in the wild with wolves. And so Lawrence makes the ultimate sacrifice, he lets Yukon go, giving him the freedom that should have been his from birth.
This a poignant, funny, humorous and often sad book about a man and a hybrid and how they learnt to respect and love one another, yet never loose sight of which side of the fence that each belonged. For all nature lovers, especially those with a passion for dogs, wolves and hybrids.
Since I wrote this review in 2002, this book is now back in print which I am really pleased about.
I am also sad to say that R.D. Lawrence passed away in November 2003 aged 82 so for all you nature lovers out there, this is the time to stock up on his books before they go out of print again.
The best wolf story ever Review Date: 2006-12-02
Lawrence had a great attention to detail without ever mentioning anything trivial. His focus was on Yukon, not himself. And the way the story unfolded, dealing with other animal encounters and the weather (as is inevitable in the Canadian wilderness) there is not a page of this book that falls into the mundane. Every animal, every person, every event in this story comes to life.
I could see my own dog in this story. I've often felt my dog Sammy was part something wild, be it Grey wolf or coyote, as Sammy shows so many similiar traits to Yukon.
Although I "recycle" my books at book swaps, this is one book I'm holding on to. If you love dogs, the wilderness, Canada or the outdoors and the environment, this book is a must-read.
The North RunnerReview Date: 2001-08-16
A DOG LOVERS MUST READReview Date: 1999-09-27
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The best parts of the book for me were:
#. The Object-Relations Theory - which was new to me, but beautifully explained in easy to understand words, with lots of examples to illustrate his point. Also with author's regret that it's a shame to be named "Oject-Relations Theory" when dealing with humans (Mother-child).
#. Staying Home chapter - various examples of how the dynamics between parent/child work and how he helped them move on to the next stage. It was helpful to learn of the "control drama" - which I had seen play out in my own life; basically meaning that once you decide to move on in life, leave home, the normally abusive parent will suddenly change their behavior to get you to stay. And how being in therapy, and having the therapist change you will most likely be met with disapproval from the abusive parent. But in order to "make the change" you need to stay committed and strong in your own choices.
#. I don't feel comfortable sharing too much about my personal life, but I do hope that this book will reach a lot of young people out there, who are in a difficult relationship with their parents. One of the wisest advices or comments I have found in this book was :
"Another defensive path that many of my patients take is to try to understand WHY they were not loved or cared for. (p.113) ... The question as to why we were abused is a continuation of our defenses, in that it assumes there is an inherent logic in life, and that we could have done something differently to please our parents. The ultimate "answer" to the question of why we wer rejected, undernurtured, or punished unfairly is simply bad luck - the same bad luck that allows innocent people to be maimed or killed by drunk drivers every year.(p.115)"
This is what I meant by accepting the hardest part was for me. I'd already learned to make my choices and be myself, move on, leave home; but the final and most important curiosity was that "Why Question." It's like the idea of opening that pandora's box story... If I understand WHY they behaved that way towards me when I was younger, I could get on with my life. That motivation was what drove me stay for prolonged abusive relationship. Just reading that passage - helped me let go of the Why Question with ease and more acceptance. I may NEVER really get it; but it's no use blinding myself to Why's and Because's - I'd rather feel secure in knowing that I can make choices for myself, and just choose to educate myself how to be a better person who knows how to create lasting loving relationships. (For this, I recommend the book "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It")
For those who would like to read a more personal accout of growing up in an abusive household, I would like to recommend the book "Fresh Out of Hell" by Alyson Kay (although I wish I had borrowed this book from a library instead of buying it).
Overall, I do believe that Leaving Home is a very comprehensive and reliable book to have for those who imagine what it'd be like to finally leave the beloved yet horrifying family and home. It is full of compassion and quite realistic, and supportive; it will help you to stop that Love/Hate(Anger) cycle in the second chapter - "How Our Defenses Play 'Hide and Seek' with Reality".
#. I almost forgot but there was another excellent excerpt(p.28-32), which I couldn't find in any other recovery or Narcissistic Personality Disorder infos, or self-help books that explained WHY the abused child ends up staying close to the abusive parent! This is the same type of reasoning that goes for battered women, who stay with their physically abusive husbands. I found it VERY satisfying to finally see WHY I was feeling so connected when there was so much pain to endure.
"Harrison's example illustrates that neglect has a counterintuitive effect on the development of the human personality. Amazingly, neglect of a child's normal developmental needs makes that child *increasingly attached* to her (faulty) parents as compared to a child who has been reared by nurturing and loving parents. At first glance, this seems to be completely backwards. It seems logical that a child who had very few developmental needs satisfied by her parents would end up being less dependent on others. One might assume that the chronically neglected child would give up the battle to get her developmental needs met and move on in life, but as I have noted, the individual cannot move on without the cooperation of the parent. (p.29) ...
This critical development reality can be illustrated with the use of numbers. Let us assume that each day in a healthy family results in one unit of emotional nurturance within the child, toward the many thousands of units required for the development of a healthy personality. Thus, a child from a functional, loving family will probably end up with 350 units of nurturance per year. Why not 365 units? Simply because even healthy loving families have some disruptive strife that prevents the child from getting his daily minimum requirement. Thus, each year the loved and emotionally supported child adds 350 units to the required number needed for mature personality functioning. Second, let us assume that it takes 7,000 units of emotional support in total, over a period of twenty years, to allow the child to develop into an adult with a fully mature personality. After ten years of supportive parenting the child has acquired 3,500 units, and after twenty years, 7,000 units, which allows this lucky young adult to achieve emotional maturity. Once achieved, the young adult no longer needs the frequency or intensity of support that was necessary during her devlopment because she carries the thousands of events of emotional support in her memory. She can now separate from her family and eventually begin the process of nurturin the next generation of children.(p.30)"
Celani goes on to explain how the under-nurtured child will not have enough support or care stored in them to meet that 7,000 mark; and although it defies conventional logic, the child cannot make equal friendship with the peers, and therefore, have no option but to cling to the abusive parent.
Thank you Mr. Celani for sharing your professional expertise and overall warm compassion apparent in your work. God bless your soul.