Home and Family Books

This is the end-all manual for dealing with the "little details" of death. Chapters on the unexpected death, preparing for an upcoming death or pre-planning to save your loved ones unnecessary hardship are concise and complete. The author takes a direct approach with his funeral workbooks. The information on pricing, purchasing and comparing coffins is a must for all of us who don't wish to be ripped off in our grief. We all will need this book someday.

If you know nothing about Alzheimer's, and you're afraid to tackle the medical tomes...this is the book to start with. A short, to the point paperback that takes you through an understandable definition of the disease and the first steps you need to take for your loved on. The basics on caregiving are outlined, and how to get help including deciding on and choosing a nursing home. The author is a former director of an ALzheimer's research foundation and his extensive knowledge shows.

I discovered this only because my youngest cousin, who goes to Harvard, read it in a course and came home insisting that I read it too. I take a strong interest in my ancestry (I'm Italian American, the grandson of immigrants) and this book hit me right between the eyes. It is one man's search for the meaning of his ethnicity and all the goodness that comes with it, before it all slips away. Tonelli writes in a funny, quirky, totally absorbing style that's never dry or ponderous. But he's writing about some of the most deeply meaningful, even sometimes sad aspects of being part of a genuine community in a time when community in American seems (to me) to be on the wane. This is the kind of book that could (and should) have become a minor classic of literary nonfiction, and also a book that every ethnic American would want to read, but I gather it did not back in '94 when it came out. But if you can find a copy today, grab it fast and get ready for a thrill.

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Whilst writing my tome on Sears Homes, I kept Clark's book close at hand as a resource. Years earlier, I'd read it cover to cover and just loved it. "The American Family Home" is written by a college professor but it's a warm, conversational and fascinating read. Lacks the dry-as-dust technical, clunky language that some architectural writers seem to relish (and employ!).

What I love most about his book is that he explains HOW and WHY American architecture evolved the way that it did. He explains (in delicious and interesting depth) why the early-1900s bungalow was actually a specific response to the ostentatious and ornate Victorians of the late 1800s.

This book was well-researched and well written. I highly recommend it, both as an entertaining book and a wonderful resource to help you gain a deeper appreciation and understanding of America's architecture.

Rose Thornton
author, The Houses That Sears Built

Few books, in my experience are written as clearly as this one. Clark leads the reader carefully and thoughtfully from 1800 to 1960, and shows why certain styles of home were popular in each era. His word choice is excellent and his sentence formation is flawless. He gives many examples and the book is well illustrated. For anyone wishing to understand why Americans have bought and built the houses they have, and what they hoped to get out of them, this is the book to buy. Get two.

This is one of my favorite books. I look at it often and it has inspired me to take more family pictures and document our daily lives. This is a book about the love of a family through pictures and stories. It includes holidays, recipes, gardening tips, and more. Even though the style of decorating may not be my own, I still love the absolute warmth of this book. The warmth of family.

I just love this book. Mary put her heart into this book & the love for her family ...it reflects in every page. The applesauce with plums is fantastic! In the pages of this book you will see awesome pictures that show the true essence on family and there love of home & what is important to them. If you ever get a chance to buy a copy of this book now that it is now out of print -you will be rewarded with joy in seeing the heart of a family. ENJOY & let the pages of this book rub off on you in how you look at life & family.

M's Molina has put together a fantastic book on the art of thread crochet bears. I don't even work with thread that much, but this book has me reconsidering that philosophy. The panda bear is just calling to me to be crocheted, as well as the polar bear.
M's Molina's instructions are clear and concise. The patterns get progressively more difficult, but you can stick to the "easy ones" and still be quite happy with the outcome.
I recommend this book highly to all who are interested in making teddy bears, especially thread teddy bears.

The first two are very easy: the bears have straight arms and legs. The next two have bent arms, and the last two are a little more complicated. Each of these patterns will add to your knowledge and enjoyment of the art of thread teddy bears. The instructions are easy to follow, each pattern has a diagram to assemble the bear and color photographs of the finished bear.

This book explores the often unnoticed side of being a so-called 'normal' (or 'neurotypical') person who loves someone with a mental disorder, namely autism. I found this memoir refreshing in the way that it unapologetically gives voice to those of us on the other side of the coin--those of us who have done our best to stretch our love outside of the box by often putting our own needs on hold to be good family. This book will especially appeal to baby boomers who have grown up with autistic siblings during a time when the disorder was still unnamed, as it addresses the historically inaccurate 'parental blame' theory of the disorder's etiology. I would recommend this book to anyone who has been touched by someone with a mental disorder, and anyone who considers themselves an advocate for the mentally ill.

Anne Clinard Barnhill, born in 1952 relates the story of her life as sister to Becky, who was born 1/31/58. Becky displayed autistic behavior almost from infancy. She became continent at 4; was marginally verbal for the first few years of her life; communicated by phrasing her statements as questions, e.g. "Does the Becky want to eat? Why can't the Becky learn at home?" Anne, 6 years her sister's senior took Becky under her wing and was lovingly protective of her. She even spent her summers working with Becky on cognitive skills.

Sadly, precious little was known about autism in those days. Becky was erroneously labled as "emotionally disturbed" and even retarded. Sadly, this was not uncommon back then. Becky's schooling was also a problem - in 1965, she was expelled for disruptive behavior from one special needs class in West Virginia and saw a therapist. One group home refused to take her until she became fully self-sufficient in toileting. Although continent and reliable, Becky still needed help cleaning up. Once she mastered that skill, Pressley House, a group home/school was willing to accept her after placing her on a waiting list.

On October 1, 1966 the Clinards took Becky to Amos Cottage, which was an interim placement. Becky served 9 months in Amos Cottage which sounded like a genuine hellhole. Nurses ran the place and the lowest functioning children were kept in crib-cages with bars across the top. Becky talked of the "water babies in the basement," which sounded like she meant children with hydrocephalus. She was able to describe Amos Cottage, which sounded horrible. The Clinards were horrified by the place as anyone would be, but sadly there was no other place forthcoming for Becky.

In June of 1967 after a nearly 9-month sentence in Amos House, Becky enjoyed the annual family camping trip; had fun dodging her sister and sneaking off to the pool which was verboten and in general loving the outdoors. Despite many of her unexplainable behaviors, Anne remains loving and tolerant of Becky. I like that.

Becky's behavior remains severely autistic. She pulls dolls apart until they are limbless and headless; she flips any object in her path and she gives her sister the nickname "Jet," explaining that she thinks Anne's face is jet-plane shaped. (Kind of makes you think of Paul McCartney & Wings' song, "Jet.")

Anne talks about her own milestones; her love of the Beatles whom she discovered in late 1963; her boyfriends; her schools; her crushes; her peers and how they all related to Becky. I like the way she describes her response to the events of the day, e.g. Viet Nam War (she had classmates and friends who were drafted); hippies and the music and the family Ford Galaxie, a singularly cool car. One funny story involves how Anne and her friends got stuck in that Ford and rescued it, with great music from 1968 as the soundtrack.

Anne introduces readers to her family. Readers are treated to both sets of grandparents, aunts and cousins as well. One of my favorite parts was when the girls' mother would sing Beatle songs and emphasize the "yeah, yeah, yeah" chorus in the 1963 classic, "She Loves You." It just goes to show you that nobody could dodge that Beatle influence! Becky's classmates wanted her to choose Beatle songs for her ballet recital. The Beatles remain a comforting presence throughout the book.

Despite their vastly different needs and personalities, the sisters really do, as the Beatles said, "Come Together." Readers get to follow Anne down her growing up years and experience into adulthood; at the same time readers follow Becky's progress as well. Becky weathers some major storms, including abuse at a group home when she was 9-11.

Becky's sentence at Pressley House ended in 1971. Then 13, she went onto a special program at the local high school and secured a diploma in 1979 for merely attending. She worked at area sheltered workshops before she entered a group home in 1990 at age 32.

Readers get to cheer Anne's successes as well; a successful second marriage; a blessing of 3 sons; her degrees and her courage and candor in sharing her life and that of her immediate family. Readers are encouraged by Becky's progress as well. Their story has helped lift the Dark Curtain of the Dark Ages that acted as a barrier towards appropriate placement and diagnosis for people with autism. Sadly, few options existed in those days.

In addition to the Beatle parts which I readily identified with and understood, I like the way Anne Clinard Hill opens each chapter with a passage from "The Wizard of Oz." This classic is one she and Becky have loved over the decades and do to this day.

This book makes me think of the song "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" from "The Wizard of Oz." Readers cannot help but think that in time the Path to Acceptance and recognition of autism is closer than over that rainbow and is tangible, not illusive. I am one of the people who thinks that. I like the way Becky accepts herself as well and I think this is one of the best books I have ever read about a sibling who has autism.

This book was obviously designed to be simple and easy to read. This helps, because dealing with complex medical terms at the same time you're coping with the death of a loved one is simply too much to ask.

Although the book is slightly weighted towards helping nurses or hospice staff, it will be useful for just "plain folks" who are NOT doctors or nurses but want to know if their professional caregivers are doing the "right things."

If you anticipate caring for a dying friend or relative at home, I would suggest getting this book and reading through it (it's very brief and right to the point) BEFORE the emotions and stress of this job reach critical mass. The information here can help anyone facing this reduce the stress, provide some confidence, maybe even shed light on how dying (and caring for a dying person) can be a growth process.

It's not "New Age" or mystical, but it is full of useful, elegantly-explained methods of dealing with the things that happen as we die.

After the death of a friend or loved one many people comment how helpful a book of this kind would have been to assist in going through the process of dying.While not necessarily scientific it should be required as a sensitivity training for physicians where caring and not curing is mandatory for a successful closure

Tolliver's advice, unlike most other women's self help authors, is practical and doable. This book is a must read for any new at home mother. I've found that her suggestions can really help to ease the transition from work to home.

Sometimes I enjoy reading "inspirational" essays or books dealing with motherhood and the choice to stay at home -- because they can re-affirm my own decision to stay home with my kids. Other times what I really need is solid, practical advice on how to make it really work: the nuts and bolts of the finances, budgeting, keeping the marriage high priority, dealing with the kids, and keeping loneliness and boredom at bay. This book is a sure fire hit for when I need THAT kind of advice.

I really like how the author organized the book: part one deals with relationships -- being at home in todays society, mixing marriage with sahm-hood, friendships, and so on.

Part two deals with "business matters", such as housework, budgeting, shopping smart, and so on.

Part three is my favorite -- how to handle "The Home-Alone Syndrome" (current sahm's probably know exactly what that is without needing a definition!), finding your passion, "mind over mush", assertiveness, and taking care of your physical health.

Excellent final section entitled "What Next" on determining if and/or when to transition back into the workforce, with immensely helpful exercises and worksheets included.

Overall my first pick for practical helpfulness in dealing with every aspect of sahm-hood. Highly recommend this for all sahms, whether just starting out or even if you have a few years under your belt.

I have worked with several groups on how to discover and exercise strengths. Once we get past the basic principles -- and perhaps do some exploration using instruments like StrengthsFinder 2.0 or the VIA signature strengths questionnaire ([..]) -- people often reach an impasse. What do we do with this information? How do we use it to change the way we work and live?

Average to A+ is extremely useful at this juncture. It describes several practical steps that people can take to discover, practice, refine, and use their own strengths and appreciate the strengths of the people around them. It does so in a very readable way with interesting stories and references to the scientific underpinnings. It creates bridges to supporting ideas from positive psychology that are extensively explored in academia, making them accessible to lay readers. I love the way each chapter ends with a one-page summary of the key points followed by a section called Areas for Reflection and Action. The book also describes a business case for greater emphasis on strengths -- very useful for people who want to use these ideas in organizational settings. I am very glad to have this book in my personal library.

I was amazed when I first read this book. For anyone interested in personal strengths, Linley's book provides all new insights into what strengths are and practical suggestions for how to spot them in yourselves and others. This book is a cutting edge guide to using strengths at work, in parenting, and in everyday life. For people familiar with positive psychology and the VIA strengths this book is the obvious next step. For everyone else this book is an essential first step.

If you grew up in a healthy family where appropriate behaviors were naturally reinforced, and need to teach others who have been too, this book is not for you. But if your childhood family did not reinforce appropriate behavior and you are trying to figure out how to teach it to others, this book gets the essentials very plainly. It seems to me that 90% of all misbehavior can be dealt with calmly with just the first skill, Following Instructions: 1. look at the person, 2. say okay, 3. do what you've been asked, and 4. check back.
This specific instruction has been very useful for me so that when I am trying to get my children to behave, we all have the same definition of what it means to be behaving.
The list I have for following instructions also includes "keep calm in face, voice, and body." I had a great discussion with my children on keeping a calm voice; that it doesn't include yelling, laughing, or crying, or any sound like them. I don't see that item here, but nevertheless there is a good task analysis of each behavior.

During my first year teaching 6th grade, I had no idea what to do with my students. My classroom management was a disaster and I didn't have a positive culture of respect and understanding. I purchased this book from advice from a good friend and it completely turned my classroom around. It took a while to teach each social skill, but it paid off. I HIGHLY recommend this book for any parent or teacher struggling to manage a child's behavior. It's all about TEACHING those basic skills that we sometimes take for granted.